"...Second, which I will call secondary representations, is that category of films which feature journalists, often as central characters, but in which journalism is an incidental element of the story. One thinks here (The Shipping News), where the subject of journalism--the job into which the central character is propelled by events--is less important to the playing out of the story than the movie's main themes of personal redemption and rediscovery."

"The same point can be made of Dan in Real Life, which stars Steve Carell as a recently bereaved newspaper 'agony uncle'. Secondary representations may be concerned with the life issues which a person who just happens to be a journalist might encounter in or out of the working environment. Journalism may in this context function as an important plot device, as in Dan in Real Life, where the lead character's journalistic status is principally a vehicle for establishing him as a certain kind of personality--intellectual, sensitive--with a certain kind of romantic potential, here developed in his relationship with Juliette Binoche's character. The nature of his journalism, or the processes which lead to its production are not discussed or explored in any depth in the film--it is simply there in the background. Steve Carell's Dan could have been a poet of novelist, if the aim were simply to construct a character who is a writer. Creating him as a columnist allows the script to play on the ironies of a man who gives public advice on relationships to his readers, but is somewhat dysfunctional in his own private life. Beyond this, his journalism is marginal to the story."

(Journalists in Film by Brian McNair)

看這部影片就像吃甜美的蜜糖吃到一半忽然發(fā)現(xiàn)里面有只蒼蠅吃的有點(diǎn)痛苦,前半部有對(duì)女兒們滿滿的愛,但后半和弟弟的女友調(diào)情實(shí)在是受不了阿!弟弟都把女友帶回家了,代表是非常認(rèn)真的感情男主和女主實(shí)在......

尤其是女主烤松餅吃醋那段有些人評(píng)論說看得很快樂,但我覺得那就是蜜糖里的蒼蠅男主眼看好不容易就要解脫了這尷尬的局面這女的還在勾引他打球那段也是......

也許有人會(huì)說我保守這就是愛情等等的但我要說的是如果你是那弟弟你真的會(huì)瘋了吧！從影片里弟弟把女友帶回家見父母希望女友和家人相處愉快還有緊張的唱歌都是非常愛女友的表現(xiàn),而且看的出弟弟和哥哥的感情非常的要好。

影片結(jié)尾弟弟很快就愛上別的女人這都是電影效果一般人不可能在那么愛女友,而女友在幾天內(nèi)變心和哥哥在一起有辦法那么快調(diào)適心情出來

可能是我看電影常常以同理心去感受影片吧當(dāng)我把心情切換到弟弟那時(shí)真的非常不舒服而且不合理（找上別的女人）我只能說這部影片后期實(shí)在讓人笑不出來。

兩個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)覺得弱了些。
第一個(gè)是在書店相遇，兩個(gè)人互相愛上了對(duì)方。但書店里發(fā)生的事情包括后來在咖啡店里的聊天不足以讓兩人墮入情網(wǎng)。
第二個(gè)是一首DAN配合弟弟唱的歌，讓MARIE徹底被征服，同樣也缺乏說服力。

我錯(cuò)了，我不應(yīng)該在深夜看這種電影；我真的錯(cuò)了，我不應(yīng)該對(duì)自己不加控制。

Dan in real life，中文譯名親親老爸。專欄作家Dan和三個(gè)女兒生活在一起，他是單親老爸，是一個(gè)Family First的單親老爸。這天他要帶著女兒們?nèi)チ_德島父母家里參加家庭聚會(huì)，Dan有一個(gè)龐大的家族，電影里展現(xiàn)了這個(gè)家庭的樂趣，比如早晨的健美操時(shí)間，下午的橄欖球時(shí)間，晚上的家庭舞臺(tái)時(shí)間，還有他們會(huì)比賽填字游戲來決定洗碗的人?！?br>
這不僅是一個(gè)家庭劇，不僅有親情之愛，更要有愛情之愛，天雷地火的那種。Dan在書店認(rèn)識(shí)了一個(gè)叫Marie的女人，只是那一目對(duì)視，真誠(chéng)的，天雷地火的，Marie接了一個(gè)電話后留下電話號(hào)碼匆匆走了，留下了兀自徜徉的Dan。Dan告訴Marie，“如果我不給你打電話我也會(huì)打電話告訴你的?！盌an回到家里，臉上洋溢著邂逅的美妙，正當(dāng)他要告訴大家他的邂逅時(shí)，老媽媽告訴他家里來了客人，是弟弟Mitch的女朋友，這個(gè)人就是他剛剛遇到的Marie！

家庭舞臺(tái)上，Mitch和Dan合作一首歌，Dan伴奏，Mitch主唱，但Mitch太緊張了，最后是Dan完成了這首情歌，只有Dan和Marie知道他們之間的秘密，哦對(duì)了，還有Dan的大女兒和小女兒知道，小女兒lily問，為什么爸爸和叔叔的女朋友眉來眼去，大女兒勸Dan，打住吧老爸，那是你弟弟的女朋友。

這一天Dan過得很黑色，先是Marie走了，他又傷害了小女兒，被警察吊銷執(zhí)照，與出版商商談失利。但媽媽告訴他，你唯一沒有做錯(cuò)的事兒是愛上了Marie，兒子Go！

Dan找小女兒lily談?wù)?，但女兒們拒絕了，只是從門縫里塞出一個(gè)卡片，這就是lily要給爸爸看的東西，是他們一家五口幸福的時(shí)光，看到這個(gè)卡片Dan對(duì)女兒們說，我很想念你們的媽媽，女兒們說，但媽媽已經(jīng)走了……他時(shí)刻提防的女兒的男友告訴他，愛是本能。女兒們說，“我們愛Marie多于愛你，老爸Go！”

于是，Dan又結(jié)婚了。

    很多電影都被遺忘在硬盤里了，直到再次發(fā)現(xiàn)它們時(shí)，多半也忘記了故事梗概或者演員陣容。這樣很好，真的。總會(huì)有surprise的。
     一如這部《Dan in Real Life》，典型的溫情派愛情輕喜劇。故事圍繞家庭，愛情，親情，道德，困境，成長(zhǎng)。Steve Carell的演技值得稱贊，把Dan的微妙心里處理的很好。Juliette Binoche渾身散發(fā)著淡淡的光。盡管有個(gè)好導(dǎo)演，劇情未能跳脫出好萊塢式有情人終成眷屬的套路，而某些細(xì)節(jié)也有鋪陳的嫌疑。但它仍真實(shí)的打動(dòng)了我的心。
    溫馨的家庭氛圍，期間點(diǎn)綴著輕快和幽默。但我忘不了Dan落寂的神情，那是對(duì)生活的承受和付出。而作為一個(gè)出色的“家庭專欄”作者，他和女兒的關(guān)系卻陷入了困境。
    而發(fā)生在雨天書店的邂逅，似乎就是生活中隨時(shí)降臨的surprise。那個(gè)長(zhǎng)鏡頭很靜也很美：楓葉紅的秋，灰蒙蒙的雨，藍(lán)色海潮，木頭小屋，一杯咖啡，訴說和傾聽，一個(gè)男人和一個(gè)女人。而，一杯咖啡的時(shí)間，可以很長(zhǎng)，也可以很短。我情不自禁的想起了和他初相遇的情景，那些暢談至今仍然完美，我第一次覺得4小時(shí)的旅途，很短。如果許我一生，該有多好。
    生活也從未停止制造下一個(gè)surprise。再次相遇，卻遭遇尷尬。于是我看到一個(gè)在愛情，親情，道德里掙扎的男人。即便壓抑，隱忍，但在愛情面前，誰都會(huì)變得瘋狂。只因愛情如果是feel,那對(duì)愛的渴望便是本能。Dan替弟弟說出愛的描繪時(shí)的神情，女兒指責(zé)他不懂什么是愛時(shí)，那以疑問句開頭的有著擊中人心的獨(dú)白。三張罰單的微妙場(chǎng)景。等等。此刻，如果問自己愛情是什么，誰又能說得清呢？
    這部電影的最后幾個(gè)場(chǎng)景，讓我意識(shí)到這個(gè)春天遇見的短暫美好，便是愛情。還未真正開始，便已結(jié)束。

what is it?
it's frustrating that you can't be with this person ？
that... that there's something keeping you apart ,something about this person you connect with?
and whenever you're near this person, you don't konw what to say , and you say everything, that's in you mind,and in your heart .
and you konw that if you could just be together,and this person will hlep you become the best possible version of yourself.
you know that feeling in you heart , when your heart is just pounding, and like it's actually outside your ribs.
exposed ,vulnerable,wonderful and awful. and heartsick and alive ,all at the same time .
what do you call that?
uh, love.

我終于忍不住潸然淚下是Dan在戀情曝光后，面對(duì)三個(gè)女兒保證自己不會(huì)忘記亡妻的時(shí)候。
I miss your mom.
我想念你們的媽媽
All the time and l always will.
一直都是，將來也是
I see her every day.
我每天都能看見她
I see her in your goodness, Jane.
Jane，我在你的善良中看到她
And, Cara, your passion.
Cara，還有你的熱忱
And,Lilly,you have her eyes.
Lily，你有和她一樣的眼睛
And her smile.
以及她的微笑
So here's what I'm going to do:
所以我將要做的是：
I am grounding myself for life.
我將自我監(jiān)禁一輩子
I'm sticking with you.
我會(huì)和你們永不分離
I am going to be with you...
我會(huì)和你們?cè)谝黄?br>I'm not going anywhere.
我哪里也不去
真正刻骨銘心的愛，不會(huì)在其中一個(gè)人缺席余下的生命的時(shí)候結(jié)束。被死亡留下的那一個(gè)人，會(huì)把記憶和生活當(dāng)成上帝賜予的禮物而視如珍寶。哪怕要進(jìn)行痛苦的自我犧牲也在所不惜。離開的人，總會(huì)以別的方式存在。
而那些你始終珍惜的善解人意，熱烈的愛，堅(jiān)定的眼神和溫暖的笑容，遲早會(huì)回報(bào)你以理解和支持。
這個(gè)男人，他的情話獨(dú)一無二，直指人心。一見傾心的時(shí)候，他會(huì)感嘆：''Did I just die? Because an angel walked into the room."你是他的天使，他甘愿赴湯蹈火。明知道是錯(cuò)的，他也在所不惜。他對(duì)你承諾：''I'll forgive you your past if you'll forgive me mine."不曾經(jīng)歷的過去不應(yīng)該成為彼此廝守的阻礙，只要你們?nèi)硇慕邮軐?duì)方。
我知道它是部不折不扣的溫馨家庭片，但最感動(dòng)我的，是這一大家子對(duì)愛的討論和執(zhí)著。
Infatuation is not love.
迷戀不是愛
Sexual attraction is not love.
性的吸引不是愛
What is it?
什么是愛？
It's frustrating that you can't be with this person?
它是當(dāng)你不能和這個(gè)人在一起時(shí)的心灰意冷
That there's something keeping you apart, something about this person you connect with?
當(dāng)一些與這個(gè)人相關(guān)的東西阻擋分離你們
And whenever you're near this person,, you don't know what to say, and you say everything that's
in your mind and in your heart.
無論何時(shí)，當(dāng)你和這個(gè)人在一起，你不知道該說什么。你訴說你想的一切。
And you know that if you could just be together, that this person will help you, become the best possible version of yourself.
而如果你知道你們能長(zhǎng)相廝守，這個(gè)人會(huì)幫助你，成為你自己能成為的最好的樣子
愛從來就不是青春期荷爾蒙分泌過盛的產(chǎn)物，也不是意亂情迷的動(dòng)蕩不安。愛也不僅僅是美好的初吻和緊密的擁抱，更不僅僅是追求自由的權(quán)利和反抗壓迫的吶喊。愛是能讓你成為最好的自己的那個(gè)人的一顰一笑，還有你們不離不棄的每時(shí)每刻。
Love is a dangerous feeling.
愛是一種危險(xiǎn)的感覺
Love is not a feeling, it's an ability.
愛不是一種感覺，愛是一種能力
How is that sweet?
什么很甜蜜？
To be that certain.
彼此那么堅(jiān)定不移
To feel so much love.
感受那么豐盛的愛
篇末的獨(dú)白是這樣的：
If we're really honest with ourselves, most of the time our plans don't work out as we'd hoped.
如果我們能開誠(chéng)布公，大多數(shù)時(shí)候我們的計(jì)劃總是不如我們預(yù)期的那樣奏效
So instead of asking our young people, ''What are your plans? What do you plan to do with your life?"
所以停止詢問我們的年輕人：“你的計(jì)劃是什么？你計(jì)劃如何度過你的人生？”
Maybe we should tell them this: plan to be surprised.
或許我們應(yīng)該告訴他們：準(zhǔn)備迎接驚喜
時(shí)刻準(zhǔn)備著那些生命中讓人笑中帶淚的驚喜。比如轉(zhuǎn)角遇到的愛情，比如寸步不離的守護(hù)。比如堅(jiān)定地踏上征途，勇往直前；比如無畏地表達(dá)自我，追求幸福；比如獨(dú)立地思考問題，做出抉擇。
比如，一如既往地愛，治愈過往的傷痛。